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HIS SHAME...
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VISION:
END SEXUAL VIOLENCE. I envision a world where women and children are safe from sexual violence including sexual harrassment, rape, inscest and molestation of any kind, have full autonomy over their body and are respected as equals to men. And when these basic human right are violated, the victim is backed by the full weight of the law, able to safely report the assault and boldly disclose the name of their perpetrator without fear of reprisal, accusations of doubt, shame or blame for the crime.
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MISSION:
Eradicate rape culture and all forms of sexual violence against women and children by changing sexual harassment and assault laws so that they better support victims of sexual violence physically, mentally, emotionally and financially. Empower and champion survivors of sexual harassment and assault to tell their story, boldly disclose the name of their perpetrator and report the violation without fear of retribution, being shamed or being blamed.
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RAPE CULTURE:​​​​
When your car is stolen you are not ashamed to report it. When your house is broken into, when a drunkard in a bar punches you, when your purse is snatched from your shoulder on the street, you have no shame in reporting immediately. Think about it, even in what we consider the most heinous of crimes... murder - there is no hesitancy whatsoever in reporting it.
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A sexual assault, unlike any other violation, carries with it an overwhelming, crushing and paralyzing weight of shame, silencing its' victim for decades and often times - forever. The only crime that comes close, is domestic violence.
Why is it that when a woman is abused by a man, SHE is ashamed? Why are women made to feel responsible for a man's bad behavior? The answer is... Rape Culture.
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THE VOICES THAT DRIVE RAPE CULTURE THINKING:
Rape culture is a way of thinking that has been around since the dawn of man. It is woven into the fabric of American culture, and is normalized the world over.
You should have known better. No one will believe you. You are making it up to be vindictive. You're just a scorned woman. You are lying. It was your fault, you shouldn't have worn that. You looked sexy. You shouldn't have flirted. You're going to be in so much trouble with your dad. You shouldn't have had so much to drink.
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We hear these voices externally from friends, family, cops, layers and judges, as well as internally. We repeat these scathing, judgemental messages to ourselves, collapsing into an abyss of shame.
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You shouldn't have gone there (the reason men aren't subjected to comments like this is because they don't have to worry about being attacked by a woman), You need to let it go. Get over it. It's not that big a deal. You're over-reacting. Your past will be dredged up, you will lose your job, your family will disown you. It's his word against yours so don't bother. Boys will be boys. That was years ago... why disrupt his whole family and life. And on and on.
1 OUT OF EVERY 3 WOMEN IN THE WORLD HAVE EXPERIENCED SEXUAL VIOLENCE​
The #metoo movement was an important moment in our culture...
NOW IT'S TIME FOR THE NEXT STEP…
#sayhisname
Of all the crimes known to humanity, sexual assault is the singular offense that can cause insurmountable and lifelong shame for its victim.
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Due to victim-blaming and slut-shaming, sexual assault, unlike any other violation, carries with it an overwhelming, paralyzing stigma of shame that can silence its' victims for decades and oftentimes forever.​
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Authorities and the populace in general are outraged when they find out about multiple children in a church or Olympic Gymnastics team being sexually assaulted by their priest or doctor.
There is a public outcry when people hear of military investigators covering up sexual assault complaints brought by female soldiers. There have been multiple female soldiers who were raped by a fellow soldier and disappeared. They were later found to have been murdered, beaten to death after reporting their sexual assault.
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People are shocked and disgusted by rich, powerful men recruiting, grooming and sex trafficking 14-year-old girls to sexually service them and their wealthy friends and politicians. Trapping these girls on an island so there is no escape. We are seeing in real time politicians... the President of the United States Trump, perpetrate a mass cover-up for him and his rich, power-mad buddies, sexual violence against girls who have not even reached the age of majority.
The ass-kissing politicians that are in Trump's pocket are even bending the law to assist in his cover-up. The politicians who are against pedophiles could be doing so much more. Trump is already legally recognized as a rapist. If a public figure like this can get away with sexual assault, what does our legal system care about one little Jane Doe who is raped?
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The perpetrator is always protected better than the victim. THIS IS WRONG.
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We even see the news stations that are reporting on these stories, water it down. They call it "assault" instead of "sexual assault" or "rape." Damn-it! Call it what it is! Stop minimizing sexual violence!
This public and political outrage is striking and ridiculous to me because it is not a matter of multiple children being molested in a particular organization or pedophile… it is women and children chronically throughout the US and the world, being molested, incested and raped by sexual predators since the dawn of man!
Rape is everywhere all the time. It gets covered up or dismissed by people around the victim including family, friends, coworkers, teachers, doctors, nurses, politicians… people who are supposed to protect them. Even our legal system is set up to fail the sexual assault victim. This is the moment! THIS IS THE TIME TO...​
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